I came across an old adage saying that "every lid has a pot". So true. I did a google search to find out the origin of that phrase and it is from Balzac (a writer). I believe every lid has a pot but not all pots have a lid do they? I guess its a way of saying not one size fits all. The saying was mostly used to describe single people trying to find their partner and a way of saying that not everyone out there is going to be a fit for you. But the phrase can really be used for a lot of things in life and now is one of my favorite phrases to say.
When I think about exercising or loosing weight, for example, there is no one approach or one method that fits all. What works for me will not necessarily work for you. There is no one job that fits all, no one hobby that fits all etc. We are all different people. But there is always one perfect pot for that one lid.
You may not be having any luck finding the right partner, or the right job or the right diet or weight loss method, the right friend or tribe. But there is someone and something that will be the perfect match and fit for you in every aspect of your life. You just have to find it and believe that you will.
Finding that perfect pot is always a challenge. It can take long and will require patience on your end. Rushing the process will likely lead to the wrong pot and it won't fit right. You will have to return the pot or let it go and find the right one. Hope you get the point here. Whether its your job, your skills, your calling, your personality,we all have have own pot of things.
When I was younger and dating looking to find my perfect partner, I would get very impatient and thought that there was no one for me. Just when I thought things were going right or I found the right person, something would happen and the relationship would fall apart.. Then one day, I met my husband and all the pieces fit and I found my perfect pot.
The same thing happened with my job. Some jobs were right and some that are thought were right for me, turns out now they are not. So I am back again to looking to change that pot. Not sure what that is yet and it has not turned up for me but I know that it will.
The difference between now and back when I was younger is that I am a more matured, careful and have more patience. I don't have to just go out looking for a new job or applying anywhere just because it "seems" to be a perfect fit. I know for sure that in every aspect of my life, I will eventually find the right "pot". I can always apply to anything and randomly make the next move, but not now. I am not going to act on my impulse unless it is something that I have been feeling for a long time.
I have some young friends at work who graduated recently and are now looking to the next phase of their lives with settling down and finding the right partner. I hear a lot of stories about how frustrated they are with the people they meet. I tell them, not to rush the process but to enjoy it. Enjoy the dating phase and just have fun and not think about whether it will work out or not. If it is not mean't to be then it will end at the right time and you will move on. In the meantime, it is all a great experience and one that you will remember. So even though some of my friends have had their heart broken , they know that the right "pot" will come and till then I say just take care of your heart. I wished I told my younger self that. There is someone out there for everyone.
Now, I remind that phrase to myself everyday especially when things don't seem right or I get impatient sometimes that there is no need to feel rushed. The right things will happen in the right time and it will be perfect, not once size smaller or larger. It will be a comfortable and perfect fit and and a perfect "pot".
Wish you love my friends!
Peace,
Monita
