Don't we all have those days, more often than not, to just be done for the day. Looking forward to the holidays has given me such joy since I have been having more frequent "I have had it" type of days. I mean the really rough, everything can go wrong, overwhelming type of day where you just want to quit your job.
It can get to be too much and when you are in that mode for a good stretch of time, it gets to be even harder to stay motivated. No one wants to go home after a day of work with the constant overwhelmed feeling but it happens and far too often with me lately.
So the question then becomes how do you deal with it? How can I pass through the overwhelm feeling and just chill when I come home and be present for my kids? Do I really want to continue to have this just throw my hands in feeling every day?
If it is a cycle of ups and down then at least I know that it is temporary and can convince myself by saying "this too shall pass". At first, I did think that it was just going to be a little crazy for a short period of time, but its been going on since the last 60 days. There's been no downtime and just a constant putting out the fire type of drill which has been a lot to deal with and when you are new, it makes it harder.
Every company has their ups and downs, however, I think management can be a little more proactive and efficient. I am in a situation where I am dealing with management who really aren't giving things like deadlines and workload a thought and not learning any lessons. It almost feels like they want to work you non stop 7 days a week and during the holidays!!!
I find myself saying "I have had it" every single day multiple times a day. So I know that you can't just quit (at least I can't) and walk out. As I think about ways to deal with this overwhelm feeling I have come up with a few questions to ask myself:
- Can I quit right now? Yes or No.
- If it is a No, what can I do to help myself through the day to combat the feeling.
- What can I do more often before I start work, during work and after work to give me the happy feeling?
- What can I look forward to?
- What am I grateful for?
- What are the things that I can control?
- How can I keep one of my mantra"this too shall pass" front and center.
I know that I can't quit my job. To help myself through the day, I remember to take frequent breaks and walk away. I will need to do this more often and just leave my desk and walk around the floor or go downstairs, If possible, I like to just step outside even if it is just for 3 minutes to help me reset.
In order to do this more often, I need to do take deep breathes before work, during and after and constantly remind myself to take those breaks. If I stay seated for too long it becomes to much and at the end leaves me with the "I am so done" mode.
I look forward to going home and hugging my babies and just thinking about them at work washes away my overwhelming feeling and gives me a sense of calm right away. I am so grateful for them and everyone in my life .
I can't control what happens at work, or my manager, or other people or when I will get my dream job (I know there is no such thing). I can control my thoughts, my internal compass and guide it along the way.
I need to keep reciting "this too shall pass" everyday, every hour or minute. Sometimes I forget and I think writing it down on my pink post it note will be so helpful to look at. And while I can't control the work or anything else that happens at work, I can control my reaction to it so I don't get stuck in the "fed up mode" with this job.
It is hard to stay in this mode for a long time since I find that it is taking a toll on my health. Being on the high stress highway for too long is causing a few health issues and I know that if I don't find a way to combat the stress, it will get worse.
Keeping up with my exercises is probably one of the most important things I can do for myself. I try to workout at least 30 minutes everyday and it does wonders for me. Living a wholly life means to completely accept where I am for now, and find a way to push through till I can find something better and even then there is no guarantee that the grass will be greener on the other side. Doing the things that are within my control is what I can do and get better at. Its trying to live with that maybe this is all part of a plan for lessons I still need to learn.
So while I have many, many days of I have had it and wanna quit, I can't and won't till I find something else. But remembering "this too shall pass" will get me through it. You can do this!!!
Wishing you love and Peace my friends!
Peace,
Monita
