We all have them, sometimes more than we like. It can start from the moment we wake up and just continue through the day. Things keep falling apart. Just when you think you have things under control, something else will fall apart.
I had a bad day last week at work. Having to redo a 90 pages for a presentation 3 times counts for a bad day. It was no fun. I have also had many bad days at work and in my personal life.
My bad days can be where people said mean things to me, treated me and said things to my face as if I were nothing, being totally ill and not being able to get up from bed. Bad day of course!!!!
I have days where it all starts great and then goes downhill quickly. Bad days are always never fun but we all have them. The question is how do we handle ourselves when we are having a bad day.
For me, when I used to have a bad day, I would let all my emotions rule my behavior and things would just get worse. I will try to get a handle of things but that would always make it worse. Trying to get a handle of things and control what would happen next, only made it worse. The controller in me who tries to get everything in control losses complete control.
I like to think that there are bad days and worst days. When I think oh gosh I need to redo this presentation again or hear we go with another argument on something silly, I think you know this is not really that bad as maybe some of other news I could have got,like someone's sick in the family or loosing a loved one or other disheartening news you hear. That to me really is worst. People are experiencing it daily and then I wonder why am I complaining about my bad day which is not technically "BAD".
Friends, it could always be worse and that is the truth. I have been there when I got a call from my dad saying my mom is in the hospital, your uncle has cancer, your grandfather/grandmother past away....
I have also heard my coworker saying his pregnant wife lost their child, or my friends saying their mom has cancer, or someone finding out they have cancer, loosing a job, a death in the family and other types of scenarios.
All of that counts for the worst days in ones life.
I know and feel for the people that have gone through such days and when I hear them, I too end up having a bad day . It totally affects my mood and leaves me very sad. These are however, more than just one bad day. It is more like a few bad days, weeks, months and years. You hope it will go away or it were untrue.
The are lots of things that help me through the day but these 5 phrases that help me stay sane and strong :
- Have faith - This is a big one for me. No matter what have faith that this day is here for you to learn and grow and no day or experience will ever get wasted. I use it as no day getting wasted in my life and every day I will have faith no matter what and keep reminding myself that. Its easy to loose faith during a bad day but that's when you really need to "hold on" to your faith even more.
- It could be worse- Yes it can. It may be bad but maybe not as bad as someone else's. It does let you see things from a different perspective. You still will go through the emotions but remind yourself that your "BAD" day may not as "BAD" as the person next you.
- I am going to get through this day- Yes you will. The day will come to an end and you will feel better tomorrow or will find your way through it.
- There is always tomorrow- Always another chance for us.
- Its OK- You may not feel this way in a more serious situation but know that your life will go on and accept that it is OK.
The other thing that helps me is a praying, a good night sleep, good food to nourish my body and exercising. The day is what the day holds and as much as I wish it were different, it is not. So denying it or running away from it will not help.
I know that I have to deal with it and figure it out. I can't never do it on the day itself since my emotions are really strong when "out of the blue" things happen. I need to settle myself down after the emotions washes through and then face it. I have to let myself through it and not ignore or run away from the emotions felt on a bad day. As hard as it will be when you are having a bad day, remember that there is a rainbow at the end of the storm...always.
In the everyday cycle of life, we will have good and bad days. Somehow, when the bad days comes and stuff hits the fan, we say and think like oh gosh not again, but remember the good days. I have faith that life, god or whatever you may believe in gives us more good days than bad, while we may think the opposite sometimes. I always try to focus on the good days since it far outnumbers the bad days that I have. So when there is a bad day, I take it with stride and constantly remind myself that it will be okay, even though it may not seem at that time.
Having a good network of family or friends or someone you can turn to is so helpful during a bad day. Just picking up the phone and talking to someone will immediately relieve some of the distress.
For me, I have one good friend that I can reach out too but there are times where she is not available. In that case, I turn to writing. Writing has always allowed me to say what I want to say and to get it all out. Its very therapeutic for me. If I can't get it down immediately, I start talking about it out loud as if there was someone listening to me. I just say all the things I want too, including the not so nice words but I have to find a way to let it out before the pressure builds inside. Music helps too and listening to your favorite song or something uplifting will make you feel better.
I will most certainly be there for anyone who needs a shoulder or a hug during their bad day. I know what it feels like and if I were there with you, I will be that ear for you. We all need to be there for each other.
As I like to think, "Bad days are sure to come, I will see it though, I will not stand in its way for its here to teach me a lesson or two".
Peace,
Monita
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