Day 57 of 2021-Pros and Cons

 Happy Friday!! I am so happy that it is Friday. What a week its been. How are you all feeling today?

So today I have been feeling a little overwhelmed since I had to make a decision as to whether I was going to accept a job. I did accept the job and actually felt relieved till.. I spoke to my manager's boss. 

So changing jobs is hard and reaching to that decision was not easy for me either. The very fact that I decided to even switch jobs now, in the midst of a pandemic, was a difficult choice but nevertheless I went through it and am glad that I did.

So I got a call yesterday from my managers boss and he basically wanted me to rethink my decision. As I was processing everything he was saying, I began to feel stressed and overwhelmed again.

So instead of thinking about it over and over again, I decided to list the pros and cons. Recently I have been either thinking and listing the pros and cons for any situation. You can really use it anytime you have to make a decision or to help you reach your resolutions. 

Its a great way to also hold your self accountable. When the pros outweigh the cons, you have all the reasons to go for it and if the cons outweigh the pros, then you perhaps lean the other way. By listing all of your thoughts in 2 columns you will be better able to judge and see the situation more carefully and then decide. 

I am a big proponent of using pros and cons. Yes, you can always talk to friends or relatives and they will surely lead you to making the decision or tell you what they think is best. But only you know what's best and only you can decide what is right for you. 

So I suggest, sitting quietly with a piece of paper and draw a big T. On the top of the page you can write the situation or decision that you need to make. On the left list the pros and on the right list the cons. Write everything that comes to your mind about the situation, and I mean everything. Once you have done that keep the paper aside for a few hours or a day if you can.

Then go back to it and review what you have written. Read each bullet slowly and think about anything else that you may have excluded. Now that you have the complete list, if one side has more bullets than the other, your answer maybe easy. If both side have the same bullets, then I would say go with how you feel deep down. 

Sometimes its very obvious but at other times, its not and that's when you need to really listen and feel what your heart is telling you. You never know if it will work out but if you feel strongly then do it. Your mind may not agree, but I know the heart and feeling will never lie. 

Its never that clear but by listing the pros and cons, it can make the reaching the decision quicker.

 No matter what you will be okay.

Wishing you peace and happiness from my heart to yours!

Peace,

Monita